When a lovely Asian girl meets a nice western guy.

In China, if a girl has never lived overseas, or who has never had a western boyfriend before.

 It is likely for the girl to judge a western man from a romantic American movie: A handsome man lives in a luxury house or an apartment;driving a convertible car along the seaside.

On her birthday, the guy will give her a big surprise by bringing her to one best restaurant with flowers, candles, romantic music surrounded, and also she will receive a precious gift: eg, a bottle of Chanel NO.5 perfume or a Gucci wallet.

However, in real life, most western guys are not that rich type.

A lot of them, especially young generation, they used up all the money by the end of the day, even someone can’t afford to buy food or petrol if they have problems with budgets.

But I do know someone will be so frustrated if the wages don’t come through to their account on time, their bank account balance could be 0.

So if a girl expects a western guy buy a luxury gift; that is just a perfect dream, it is quite impossible.

If he buys you a bunch of roses would be so romantic.

Well, you might be lucky enough meet a truly rich man, who doesn’t care money at all, however, he might be a control freak: “That’s nothing for an LV bag, but you’d better listen to me; do whatever I like you to do.”

Would you like losing freedom in order to get an cheap jerseys? No, I don’t think that would be you.

And some rich type men might are workaholics, they are only interested in having investments for more money.

What? Luxury things?  OMG, please don’t tell me, ok, I have never bought one for myself.

In China, a boyfriend could do anything for a girlfriend,eg, paying for the restaurants, movies, shopping stuff, gifts for the girl and even her parents.

The most expensive part is an apartment, if you don’t have one, why not ask your parents pay for it or let’s just say good-bye.

I am not gonna pay for mortgage with you the whole life, how miserable!!!

However, in Australia, it is spilt the bill when dining out.

No, I don’t know when we can get married, maybe we never marry the whole life, just be together, it is normal in western countries, it's your choice.

We share rent, we share bills, we share food, we share everything, it’s not fair to pay for all, girls.

One day, when a western guy travel or have a business  trip to China, a middle-aged Aussie man( I havemore readers belong to that age, so I don’t talk about guys in their 20s)who has experienced a lot of relationships in Australia, they could be just break up with their partners or get divorced.

Therefore, on their mind, they are pretty sick of western ladies from their previous experience.

However, they are still having high expectation for a romantic story happen and this is quite natural for a human being.

When they are visiting Asian countries, eg China, men are very easily attracted by the appearance of Asian ladies.

Wow, they look so small, skinny, how adorable!!!

Yes, yes, I reckon I love Asian ladies, you see, they are soo cute with smiling face whenever they are talking with me.

Even the younger ones are so warm; I’ve never got such good feeling in my own country.

Lovely!!!

For Asian women who have never experienced life with western guys, they might regard them as the whole western world with a stereotype.

Rich, romantic, funny, polite, handsome, all the nice thoughts they have been inspired from the movies.

It is such a wonderful world- the western countries.

Very soon, a nice western guy falls in love with a pretty Asian woman, they can’t live without each other, so fresh, so passionate.

It’s amazing which is like a fairy tale. We found our true love, how lucky we are.

They leave the reality and culture behind.

I will continue the story in next article.

To find my way

In these days, I always have a feeling that I have lost my way, I hardly know where I should go. When I have spare time, I am more inclined to recall the past college years that recorded my endeavor,my tears,and unforgettable schooling and part-time job experiences. Some person says if you think of your past hard-working process,you are touched and cry,then it demonstrates you really tried your best before. I must adimit, I did all I could to study in the college,and I have a specific goal, I know exactly what I want, at that time, I cherish every second to study ,when I have no classes ,I went out to teach some kids and earn some money to afford myself. Nothing can interrupt my steps ,my mind and my determination.But now, I finally got what I was in pursuit of when i was in college,however, I lost my previous motivation,my strong determination.Maybe,it is the present life changed my mind.Better school apartments,regular allowances,more beautiful surroundings,more colorful entertaiments,all of these make me gradually forget my four years hard-working experience. Sweet defeats bitter.Nonetheless,this is not my aim.I desire to be more excellent,I want to make some achievements in my field, I dream to be a successful person. Still on the way to realize my dream, I lost my previous perservarance,persistence. I think I must reflect on my own now, I can't be lured by the outside world, I should closely grasp my dream. Once one has no dream,then he or she finds life tedious and boring. I come from a poor family, I should consistenly keep in mind that my parents are still in the poverty,I have to take responsibility for them ,for myself and for my future. In middle school,one of my classmate gave up her school life,while I persisted,then she went home to do farmwork, I successfully entered a high school. In high school, when most students were sleeping or playing games, I was carefully and silently handling my study,my great endeavor made myself popular in the whole school ,then I successfully became a member of a better college,shocking and surprising many people.In college,I still did what I thought was right,getting up early,counting every seconds to study,bravely overcoming any difficulties,I tried all I could to make myself strong,similarly,I became a popular star in my faculty.When other classmates were concerning about finding a job, my mind was not affected,because I had only one goal, I wanted to persue further study. All my friends wittnessed my endeavor for my goal,they adimired me,and were glad to help me in order to let me study concentratedly. Then,I was successful again just I had dreamed before, I had chances to have further study. But ,the past glories have gone,everything should restart. Now I know why I come to this step,because I am afraid to fail, I am too satisfied with the present life. I want to change the present situation,I could not let my parents down,let my friends down. The present me,is not that strong, and I am not in the age to enjoy the life,what I should do is to work hard. Fortunately,it  is not too late to recognize this. I believe I could do as well as before. Good luck for myself!